My Child Was Just Diagnosed with Autism and I Feel Overwhelmed

When a child receives an autism spectrum disorder (ASD) diagnosis, it can be overwhelming for you as a parent. You want the best for your child and now you’re faced with the unknown, and it’s never a comfortable place to be. 

Dr 2 Kids, Smita Tandon MD specializes in autism care and that includes partnering with parents to help you learn the best ways to interact and support your child as you both move forward with the development challenges you face. 

While there’s a broad range of symptoms and intensities between autistic children, there are certain patterns and general behaviors that form a foundation of interaction as you join your child on their path of personal growth. Consider the following points as the basis for your own approach for coping with the effects of autism. 

Communication barriers

There’s sometimes a steep learning curve when it comes to interacting with an autistic child. Some of the communication challenges you may face include: 

• Literal thinkers: Phrases and metaphors can be hard to process for your child so that if you say, “That’s the way it goes,” they may try to identify “it” and the direction in which it’s moving
• Weakness with nonverbals: Normal emotional expressions from you and others may be a language your child can’t follow
• Narrow focus: An autistic child’s mind may only fully process one line of thought at a time, to the point of obsession with topics that interest them
• yDifferences in perception: Your child may react in different and surprising ways to sensory experiences that you take for granted

While autism has no cure, it’s possible to break through these barriers while teaching your child how to become a more effective communicator. 

Practical tips for interacting with your autistic child

If there’s a universal trait that helps you as a parent to communicate with your child, it’s patience. After that, much depends on your child’s unique needs. Consider these strategies: 

• Don’t take it personally: Many ASD children have difficulty modulating emotions and their responses can be angry and blunt
• Remain positive: Compliments and rewards for good behavior tend to work better than negativity and punishment
• Physical activity: If your child displays signs of a short attention span, sharing outdoor play time may be a way to build bonds in a way that calms and relaxes your child
• Learn your child’s language of affection: It might not be hugging and physical contact but they still need to count on your interest and love

As a parent, don’t ignore yourself or your own needs. If you’re not at your best, care for your child may suffer. Use these self-care ideas when you’re feeling overwhelmed: 

• Join a parent support group
• Build an active support network for yourself for when you need a break
• Learn from your child: Dealing with the effects of autism is a two-way process
• Don’t prioritize the diagnosis: Your child isn’t defined by their condition, so keep an open mind about their abilities too

Consider Dr 2 Kids, Smita Tandon MD and her team as part of your ASD support network and visit us when you feel overwhelmed too. We can help with education and suggested approaches as well as managing your child’s symptoms. 

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